Mom Boss Monday (Kim Scotland)Oct 19, 2020
This weekly blog post highlights women who are successfully running their online business while managing a household to #NormalizeTheShitShow that comes with the territory of “doing it all”.
These moms are going to share the messy side of running their biz & raising kids, what a typical day in the life looks like (does this even exist?!), how they deal with mom guilt and SO MUCH MORE!
You're getting a sneak peek into what their life looks like so you don't have to feel bad when you haven't bathed your kids in weeks & they have avocado in their hair as they lay in their crib (guilty 🙋🏼♀️).
This week we’re hanging out with Kim Scotland.
Explain what you do & who you service in your business.
I help coaches and service based mompreneurs with the tech side of their sales pages and email lists. I design and build sales pages and hook up freebies to email lists, whether it's a brand new email list set up by me as part of the service or adding the freebie to an existing email list.
How many kids do you have? What are their ages?
Two - a daughter aged 5 years old and a son aged 5 months old.
What makes you unique as a mom & business owner?
I'm all about making sure mums get the tech help they need, when they need it in a way that they understand.
No-one likes to be bombarded with jargon, and lets face it, as mompreneurs we just don't have the time to be dealing with it, because we're busy raising our kids and making money.
Even in my job as a tech professional, with a better degree than most of my male colleagues, I was paid less than them AND spoken to like I had no idea what I was doing.
I'm hugely passionate about helping mums in particular because I want to help them inspire the next generation of girls which includes my own daughter. Our girls need to know that they can do whatever they want, whether it be a traditional 9-5, running their own business, or something completely different. And for that I believe they need more visible role models, who've been there, done it and got the t-shirt.
What's the hardest part of running your business and being a mom?
Right now, it's getting my baby to nap so that I don't have to run my business by night. If I have to, I know I can run my business once both kids are in bed, because my business started as a side hustle, but I'd rather avoid it if I can, because I don't want to be worrying about all the things I need to do when I'm putting my kids to bed.
School holidays are tough. My husband is a teacher, so it's a time when I have decent childcare for me to be able to work on my business, but it's also when my kids are both at home and want me and their dad to spend quality time with them. So that juggle is really hard for me.
What is one "messy" thing about being a mom/biz owner that you would never share in public?
There have been some days where my daughter has eaten a tin of baked beans topped with cheese for dinner. She loves those kinds of dinners, but it weighs on me on that she's not had a balanced main meal.
There have been some weeks where I've not managed to get an hour alone with my husband. Luckily he's really supportive of my business, because he knows how much happier I am working for myself than I was in my old job.
It bothers me because in these days or weeks where my time is consumed by my business I feel like my family life is being neglected, when the whole the reason I started the business in the first place was to spend more time with my family.
What does a "typical" day look like for you (I know this doesn't exist but let's pretend).
6am - wake up and get both kids up
7am - get oldest ready for school, get myself ready for the day
8am - youngest *should* go down for a nap
8:40 - walk to school
9:20 - get home and feed youngest
10:40 - youngest *should* go down for a nap, work on my mindset (usually means listening to a guided meditation/hypnosis track, journaling if I feel like it, but always includes reading for at least 10 minutes), work on my business if I have time before baby wakes up
12:30 - youngest wakes up, feed him, eat my lunch
2:30 - youngest *should* go down for another nap
2:50 - walk to school to pick up eldest
4:30 - husband gets home - he watches the kids while I make dinner
5pm - start youngest bedtime routine
6:30 - take eldest to bed
7-7:15 - tidy up after dinner
7:45 - start work on my business
9:30 - finish work on my business
10pm - bed time
Do you ever feel mom guilt?
So much mom guilt. There are some nights when I lie in bed thinking that I've spent more time with one kid over the other, or that I could have been more patient with them both.
Some days I don't overcome it, but usually I think about how much more I'm around for my kids than my parents were for me. I'm there at the school day each morning and afternoon, I'm there for all the school plays, sports days and any other school activities.
I get to spend every day with my baby knowing that I don't have to go back to a 9-5 that involves putting him in nursery for the bulk of the week.
I know I'm not perfect, but I'm there and that's what gets me through it.
What's your favorite thing about being a mom/biz owner?
I love being around so much for my kids. Walking to school in the morning is my favourite part of the day where my daughter and I have the loveliest conversations while my son sits there happily in his pushchair just listening to us. Usually grinning at his sister. These are precious moments that I wouldn't swap for the world.
What's ONE piece of advice would you give to other moms in the entrepreneurial space?
It's not easy to build a business and be a mum, no matter how many people tell you that you have the same amount of time in a day as Beyonce. 🙄
There will be (many) days where you feel like you're failing at both and in those days you just have to remember why you're doing this, whether it's so that you can be there for your kids, to make an impact in other people's lives or both, that's what will get you through the hard times.
Hang out with Kim online!
Instagram (She's most active here)
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